“Ashamed and bemused by our own fragility, we consistently underestimate how anxious everyone else is.”—Alain de Botton via Twitter, re-tweeted by over 100 people. (Source) (via scottbridges) (via fuckyeahalaindebotton)
The “I’ve Never Dated A Man Who Wasn’t Black” Girl
There’s no way you haven’t met this girl. The INDAMWWBG has managed to avoid dating white men her entire life and looks disgusted whenever anyone asks her why. In fact, the only time you see INDAMWWBG with another white person is when her own family comes around, because at work and the club she acts like she’s allergic to her Caucasian brothers & sisters. Her best friends are usually black girls who like her but are easily annoyed by her. She is eager to please.Most annoying trait: A tendency to say shit like “I’m a black girl born in a white girl’s body.”
The “I Know More About Blackness Than You Do” GuyThis is the guy who took African-American Studies in college & dated a couple Deltas but it didn’t really seem weird because he genuinely got along with almost everybody. It didn’t even seem (too) weird when he pledged a black fraternity & paid his Black Student Association dues, but now that we’re well past college, his never-ending wisdom on All Topics Black grates your nerves. He considers himself to be an expert on both hip hop and racism and is self-deprecating to the point where you want to remind him that experiencing white privilege should really be more enjoyable.Most annoying trait: A tendency to comment on parts of “black culture” we would really rather white people stay out of, like hair.
The “I’m Just Excited I Can Say Nigger Now” GuyThis guy grew up with a biracial family member or best friend who heard him say “nigger” while rapping along with a 2Pac record & never bothered to correct him. Since then, the IJEICSNNG lets it slip occasionally and when confronted will say something along the lines of “Words are only bad if you interpret them in a bad way”. Best avoided at all costs, IJEICSNNG is never going to stop. Not even if you beat the shit out of him. So just avoid that misdemeanor.Most annoying trait: Also seen often among Latino friends (who you would really think should know better.)
The “You’re My Only Black Friend And It Shows” GirlShe somehow made it through high school and college without having to interact with a single black person, and since the day you accidentally bumped into her by the copier & called her by the wrong name, y’all have been work besties. She only brings up news stories if they involve black people and makes a point of letting you know whenever ANYTHING happens in her life that involves one of us. This means you’re on speed dial if a black guy didn’t give up his seat for her on the bus.Most annoying trait: She tried to touch your hair.
The “I’m Gay So I Know What It’s Like” GuyAlways ready for another round of Oppression Olympics, this guy has been gay since KinderCare and talks incessantly about his gayness and how it relates to your blackness. He can usually draw a decent parallel, but you’re so sick of reminding him that blackness & gayness are not a competition (nor are they mutually exclusive) that you usually just roll your eyes and listen to his latest rant. For every Aiyana Jones he has a Matthew Shepard, & in his eyes it’s just you and he against the straight, white world.Most annoying trait: “I’m actually starting to think that being gay is worse than being black.”
“Stop caring what other people think. How? Understand that this is your life, not theirs, and you’ll have no one to blame but yourself if things don’t work out the way you’d hoped…their opinion shouldn’t matter more than your own.”—Stephanie Klein (via kari-shma)
…aaand American Apparel jumps on the racist bandwagon with its own interpretation of the Hipster Headdress — a sacred array of $14 twist scarves? Oh, look, you can even take fifteen dollars off the entire costume if you enter the code “NativeAmerican15” upon payment.
Anticipating the reaction, they shoot the “token” w.o.c for this outfit. Right.
the FUCK does this even mean? go piss on yourself, J. Bryant. I know a hella-lot of prudes who are incredibly boring, & have met a hearty amount of women I’m sure you’d consider “easy” who were incredible. A woman’s sexual activity does not determine her level of worth/”amazingness”.
Pep Talk: I know it seems like you have to make the right decision for the rest of your life right now or else, but that’s not totally true. Make the best, most informed choice you can now and, when that choice stops working for you, make another choice. As long as you stay in the moment, when…